#20: Someone you see yourself marrying.
Well since I'm not about to start naming names I think I'll just describe to you my ideal man. Now keep in mind that I'm absolutely aware that my list and God's might not match up exactly...in fact I'm pretty sure He enjoys getting a giggle out of some of my ideas. Anyway, I don't expect to find someone with every one of these qualities but there are a few things that are non-negotiable.
First of all he must have an active and growing relationship with Jesus. I won't settle for someone who just attends church on Sundays, I want someone who is taking steps to get to know Jesus better and to tell others about God's grace. I want him to want to discuss the Bible with me. For him to listen when something in my quiet time speaks to me and for him to share his discoveries with me.
Second, my ideal guy will have a good relationship with his family. I'm not naive enough to think that his family will be the Waltons but I need to know that whatever issues his family may have, he still loves them unconditionally.
Next, he needs to be able to have a good relationship with my family. My family and I are very close and odds are, if they don't like a guy, I won't like him either. That being said, the man I marry must be able to join in my family's quirkiness. We can be a loud bunch. My sisters and I like to sing Disney songs in the car. We're extremely competitive. And stubborn. And always right. These are things my guy will have to be able to join in on.
I really want a man's man. Now, I don't mean I want him to wear plaid all the time, scratch himself in public, and spit. I mean that I want him to enjoy the outdoors and to know all that stuff about cars that goes right over my head. He needs to know how to use all the power tools required to build bookshelves so my books don't completely take over our home.
A sense of humor is a must. Sarcasm is my love language (even if it's not one of the 5 mentioned in the book by Gary Chapman) so it would be good if Mr. Right is fluent in it. I also appreciate a wicked sense of humor. One of my favorite quotes is from the movie Anne of Avonlea, when Anne says, "Well, I wouldn't marry anyone who was really wicked, but I think I'd like it if he could be wicked and wouldn't." That expresses my feelings exactly.
I've been told before that because I have such a strong personality I need someone that will say "Yes, dear." and let me have my way. I disagree...I really think I need someone who won't hesitate to point out when I'm wrong and who isn't afraid to argue with me. Of course he will need to be able to recognize that, at times, saying "Yes, dear." really is the best course of action. :-)